Well…I have learned so much since I stared with this niche helping midlife women in my coaching business over 2 years ago.
I have evolved as a coach over the past 10 years and I will continue to do so.
Firstly, I have found that although menopause is a defining time in a woman’s life, it is SO MUCH more than just menopause.
It’s combined with the life that we live as 21st century women. We are busier and more stressed than ever before. We are mothers, wives, and partners, and have busy work lives, home loves and community lives.
When menopause hits… it is like a continuation of the craziness and the straw that breaks the camel’s back rather than the prime reason of our stress and confusion.
Thankfully, we have the Australian Menopause Centre to help us with the debilitating physical symptoms… but what about all the other craziness?
We certainly don’t live the lives of our great-grandmothers who were unlikely to work outside the home and stay at home and look after the family. Even though there were other issues, women did not suffer the type of stress that 21st century women do now.
Today, 61.4% of women (1) participate in the workplace whereas in 1950 only 33.9% did (2). So, the number of women who work outside the home has almost doubled.
With both partners working, does this mean that both partners share the household chores equally? I’d like to think yes…
But studies show otherwise. One USA study (3) showed that women spend about 4 hours per day on unpaid work whereas men spend 2.5 hours. It seems that traditional values still dominate when it comes to the home front.
What this means is that women are working harder and longer than ever before. There is more stress and anxiety due to our lifestyles. Just getting things done in a normal day can seem like a herculean feat!
No wonder women are stressed… then add to that… menopause!
In my experience, I’ve found that many women don’t realise that they are going through menopause, especially at the beginning when in peri-menopause. It’s not until the menstrual cycle completely stops that many women realise it.
This is what happened to me.
I looked young for my age, I had always been fit and healthy. I was a gym junkie and my diet was good. I was single from the age of 29 until 44 and childless by choice. I was under the illusion that menopause was not really going to affect me. I thought that one day, my cycle would just stop at a ripe old age. Viola! No big deal!
NO… it didn’t happen like that for me.
I was highly stressed when I approached menopause due to the fact that I worked long hours and had a fast and furious life. Busy busy busy!!
By the time I realised menopause was upon me, I’d been suffering for years from insomnia, forgetfulness, confusion, fogginess, anxiety and low-grade depression.
It wasn’t just menopause … it was a combination of the crazy busy life I was leading and not really nurturing myself properly – even though I thought I was at the time.
So… I burned out!
I had to make some serious changes. SERIOUS changes!
Changes from the inside out. Changing who I was or who I thought I was. Becoming who I am today and this looks very different to a few years ago… thankfully!
And this is the key! The shift was in my MINDSET with the help of a coach!
You CAN do this too. It’s as simple starting from where you are right now.
So, from confusion to finding my mojo is what I did for myself and I can help other women do it too.
I don’t want to see other women suffer the way I did. It is not necessary. With the right help, women can design their life the way they want so as to go from confusion to mojo… living in peace and harmony, no matter what is happening in their lives.
If you want to have a peaceful and harmonious life, then you need to make changes starting from the inside.
‘We don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are’ — Anaïs Nin
Want to find out more?
- Fullerton, H.N. Monthly labour Review, December 1999
- Australian Bureau of Statistics (2020), Labour Force, Australia, Jan 2020, cat. no. 6202.0, viewed 20
February 2020, http://www.abs.gov.au/ausstats/[email protected]/mf/6202.0/
- Donner, F. ‘The Household Work Men and Women Do, and Why’ New York Times, Feb 2020