As I write this, I am sitting in a room in the house of my Aunty Heloise (my mother’s younger sister) and Uncle John in the Midlands in the UK.

10 days ago my Aunty Heloise died of lung cancer…and she never smoked. She was only 78.

So…… mother and I came over from Australia to support our family here after Heloise died. My mother feels like she should have come over while Heloise was alive but it was only 3 weeks from diagnosis to her dying very quickly one night after she found it difficult to breathe. It happened so fast and it was harrowing, not just for Heloise, but for John and my cousin Lisa who were with her when it happened. The doctors said she had 12 months! They were wrong.

The house has so many memories. There are photos of Heloise, John, my cousins and my cousin’s children all over the house. No doubt there is so much love in this house and I know my Aunty lived a good life.

I have fond memories of the 3 months I spent in this house with Heloise, John and my cousins in 1989 to 1990 during a world trip. I keep having flash backs to that time as I sit here. There are so many fond memories and I could never have imagined this house without Heloise.

I keep thinking of the cliché which usually comes after the death of someone close…. ‘make the most of every day…we are only here for a good time, not a long time’. Cliché or not…it’s true.

As a coach…this is my mission,my calling and my job.

The challenges that come with midlife and menopause are real….yet we can use this as the shakeup we need to change our lives for the better so we can live life on OUR terms doing what WE want.

As I have been reminded this week in having to say goodbye to my beautiful Aunty Heloise….life is too bloody short and it is so important to remember that cliche ‘make the most of every day…we are only here for a good time, not a long time’.

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