Over 45? Congratulations! Youʼve made it to middle age!
In the past, even recently, our western culture would have had us worn out and dried up and not much good for anything, except for babysitting the grandkids.
The attitudes are changing…..slowly!
The average age for women
to go through menopause is 51 according to ‘Menopause – StatPearls. There is a whole lot of
life still to live. Right?
So ….. what now?
Well, this is the age when we can reinvent ourselves. Our priorities often have changed
quite drastically. The kids have
grown up and flown from the nest, we may want to change our work situation or start a new business or travel more and do things that cater
better for our current lifestyles.
This time of life can be seen as an opportunity for renewal, or
even a rebirth!
With menopause, comes the lifting of the ‘hormonal veil’ as Dr Christian Northrup calls in in her wonderful book ‘The Wisdom of Menopauseʼ. After menopause, women
are no longer programmed by their hormones. From puberty to menopause we are programmed for sex, reproduction and nurturing. That takes absolute priority. After menopause, we have an opportunity
to take stock of where we are now and what we want for the future.
With this, however, many women feel lost, confused and redundant.
They have been so used to doing what they have always done that they don’t remember who they are or what they want anymore.
Studies have shown an increased
prevalence of depressive symptoms during the menopause process. Depression is a
complex issue and could be related to changing hormones, emotional stress and
I have met many women in this situation who have come to me for help.
I am pleased to say that when they have finished a coaching program with me, they feel so much better and have put in place plans for their bright and exciting futures, becoming who THEY want, doing what THEY want and having what THEY want.
So ask yourself…. ‘what do I really want for myself now?ʼ
Go beneath the surface and get really honest with yourself. Meditate on it. Take down notes when you get ideas. Have fun with it! Get really clear on what you want. And, just to emphasise, it is what YOU want. Not your husband, not your children nor your boss!
The next question to ask yourself is ‘how can I have
thisʼ. Again, get
creative and figure out
some options. Brainstorm it. Write
down everything that comes into your mind, even the things
you may think are unrealistic. Again…have fun with
Just to give you an example of how life can change….
My sister lives in Perth and I live in Sydney. She had children whereas I did not. So, it was always I who schlepped over to Perth to visit during holidays. She was so tied up with raising the kids, working and managing the lives of 5 people that it was almost impossible for her to come and see me in Sydney when her kids were young.
She had often wanted to jump on a plane to
spend the weekend with me
in Sydney, but it never happened
because of her responsibilities. Now that
her children have grown
up and she is now a grandmother
of 6, her life had completely
changed….for the better.
She could have chosen to view her divorce and children growing up and leaving as a tragedy. Many women do!
With some coaching (from me), my sister completely flipped the script. We now see each other often
and we even travel together (a passion we share). She has also found a wonderful new partner.
They love going for trips
away on his Harley Davidson. She says her
life has never been better.
My sister is living proof that there is a great
new life on the other
side of midlife and menopause.
You just need to flip the script. I can help
you with this by the way!
Whatever it is that you want for yourself, one particular
theme that keeps coming up with my clients is that they want to travel more.
Often, they have either not travelled much or not done the travel that THEY
So…. let’s focus on travel as one way of ‘flipping the script’!
If you are anything like me, travel is one of the most
freeing and adventurous things to do at any age. Midlife is a particularly great
time to do it as this is when you are more likely to have the time and
resources and still have your health.
In my opinion, travel is food for the soul. To experience
other places, people and cultures takes the emphasis off me and my issues. I
feel like I am a part of something so much bigger than just myself when I
travel. I see a much bigger picture. I also feel like I am a part of a much
bigger story for some reason. In short…it feels great!
Nowadays, there are so many options with overseas travel.
You can do it full on with going business or first class or even doing it on a
If you are on a budget and want to travel, here are some hacks you could use.
There are many websites that sell cheap flights. I Know the Pilot is one such website. Basically, they are just filling the
empty seats on flights at a fraction of the normal cost as the business model
is it is better to have a bum on a seat than to let it go empty. I have seen
flights to Bali return for less than $200. There are so many flights with
different airlines to different places.
House sitting is another way to save money. Many people
have pets (as I do) and when they go away, they want someone to look after
their pets. Aussie House
Sitters is a platform where you can
stay for free at someone’s home. I use this when I go away and I want someone
reliable to look after my cats. Win-Win! There are other platforms
internationally that so the same thing.
If you are less mobile, cruising is the way to go.
Everything you want is right there.
If you would like some help with making your life what you
want it to be, whether travel is your thing or not, book in for a quick chat
with me using my online calendar https://calendly.com/gcmitchell58/quick-chat
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